What do we really mean when we tell children and young people to take responsibility for their actions? Do we really understand what we are asking them to do? Do they really understand what we are asking them to do? How much are we assuming about our children?
Do you illustrate it to them by leading by example or by guiding them to become aware of the pros and cons of their proposed/impending actions? Or alternatively if they have already made a mistake as a result of the action they had taken, are you giving them guidance in terms of how they can make amends?
Do they understand or are clear on consequences of their actions? Are you both moving forward with the same clarity of consequences AND responsibility taking?