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Food And Self Harm Behaviour

Tuesday, September 20th, 2011

We all know that food has a very direct link to our well-being and mental and physical health. Similarly, our mental state determines the type of food we eat.

 

In an increasingly globalised competitive world, people, including young people, are having to deal with various kinds of pressures and situations, much different from previous generations. This is coupled with emotional vulnerability, bullying amongst peers, de-motivation and insecurities, and which for some, becomes too difficult to deal with. For some people, self harm becomes a conscious or unconscious act that helps them to deal with these added pressures.

 

Though self harm trends are more noticeable among young people, it is by no means restricted to the younger generation. Due to a combination of work pressure, family, societal and lifestyle issues, adults also experience self harming behaviour that requires self harm help. A depressed state of mind  can encourage self harm as sometimes the mind sees harming the self as a means of dealing with the underlying issues. Under these circumstances, the right kind of nutrition   intake can go a long way in shaping the behavioural patterns of people with self harming tendencies.

 

Nutrients

Food contains various nutrients and vitamins. Each type of nutrient stimulates different organs of the body. Studies have shown that carbohydrates stimulate serotonin production. Serotonin which is also known as hydroxytryptamine is primarily found in the gastrointestinal tract, platelets and in the central nervous system. It is a major contributor of feelings of well-being: therefore it is also known as a “happiness hormone” though it is not actually a hormone.

 

According to Randy Sanstone, John Livett and Lori Sanstone in their article “Eating Disorders and Self-Harm: A chaotic intersection” about 25% of Eating Disorder patients are prone to non-fatal self harm. A further quarter of people with self harm tendencies and who suffer from Eating Disorders also have border line personality disorder.  Eating disorders can create other emotional challenges including a ‘chaotic inner-self’, problems in expressing oneself, stress and anger issues.

 

People with eating disorder challenges, deal with the issues in different ways. Some people purge themselves, otherwise known as bulimia, which has a cycle of under-eating and over-eating leading to a sense of low self esteem and needing to purge. Some people have binge eating tendencies which can also include increasing their carbohydrate intake. This can be symbolized as a stifling of their emotions; whilst others eat very little at all (starvation) known as anorexia.

 

Beyond Self Harm & Eating Disorder

Therapy can help people with eating disorder related self harm. Therapy in groups or individually can assist people to understand their eating habits and the functions that food plays in their lives.  Research shows that people exhibiting self harm benefit greatly from talking therapies which also focus on the underlying issues behind the self harm and/or eating disorder, and the functions that they play in the person’s life. Medical intervention is also used to reduce self harming behaviour.

Given that self harm and eating disorder is more prevalent in schools than ever before, teachers and teaching support staff would benefit from self harm awareness training to enable them to get a better understanding of the underlying issues in order to be able to offer self harm help to self harming pupils.

Self harm behaviour and eating habits and disorders are intricately related. Research shows that focusing on the underlying issues behind these habits, however, can and does reduce or eradicate the need to self harm.

 

As always with everything that people want to change, the person must want to change or improve in order for any treatment to work, otherwise time, effort and treatment become counterproductive.

Parents And Self Harm Awareness

Monday, May 16th, 2011

We have all heard by now of the rise in self harm amongst young people. For some parents this news will have come as a complete shock on hearing that one of those young people is their son or daughter.

Then starts the challenge of knowing which is the best approach to adopt in supporting your child, in supporting yourself  and the rest of the family, and of course, dealing with the self harming activity itself. This is also coupled with the challenge of knowing where to turn for help and which professional to approach!

In addition to the above, there are the added challenges of dealing with a gamut of raw emotions such as fear, guilt, sadness, anxiety, hurt, together with self blame, blaming other family members and/or the person who is self harming, in an attempt to somehow find a way through this situation and wondering why people self harm.

In these circumstances, parents can often feel quite alone, isolated and

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frustrated. With the stigma attached to self harm and some medical professional’s unhelpful approach to self harm, it is not always an easy situation and condition to deal with or get appropriate support for. The search for real help is made that much harder with websites promoting how to self harm. That said, parents self blame, however, does not help them or the situation, but rather keeps them stuck. There are a myriad of reasons why the self harming activity occurred in the first place.

For instance, it can be triggered by simple causes like exam pressure to other complex family related matters. An open flow of information and communication is definitely the key in getting to the root cause of the self harming behaviour and gaining more self harm awareness.

Self harming activities are wide ranging and not just the stereotypical cutting. Hair pulling, alcohol abuse, gang culture, self neglect and head banging are just some other examples of self harm. It is also an activity that transcends all cultures, societies, religion and ages, starting from as young as three or four years old to senior citizens in their eighties. Indeed, some parents are themselves people who self harm and may have concerns about the knock on effect that this will have on their children.

There isn’t a typical person who self harms or a typical family that people who self harm come from.

Given that self harm is generally a cry for help, the situation isn’t just going to go away by itself! Parents require an avenue and means of getting the help and self harm support and open communication to deal with it.

One source of information is seeking advice via your local GP/doctor and another is via local counselling or therapeutic interventions.

The main thing is to acknowledge that there is a situation that needs to be dealt with if the whole family is to move forward.

Domestic Violence and Abuse Go Orders

Monday, January 31st, 2011
Jennifer McLeod

Domestic Violence and Abuse Go Orders

You may have heard in the media recently that people who are suspected of abusing their partner could be removed from there homes by the police. This is part of the government’s proposals to manage the rising domestic violence situation in the UK. The government will be implementing its Domestic Violence and Abuse Go Orders proposals as a year-long pilot scheme in Greater Manchester, Wiltshire and West Mercia commencing summer 2011.

The Go Orders would enable the police to remove the perpetrator from their home for up to four weeks, irrespective of whether it is the victim or a third party that reported the suspected abuse.

This scheme would go a long way in assisting victims of abuse who may feel too vulnerable, frightened, insecure, susceptible to self harm, guilty and lack confidence in contacting the police themselves. Or indeed, if they had previously contacted the police in the past but the abuse and violence is still on-going. It may also ease the police’s frustration in being able to take action in such matters.

Cracking Down on Homicide:

I personally welcome the new stance that the government proposes in cracking down on domestic violence in the home, not least because two women per week are killed as a result of domestic violence and abuse. I also like the fact that women and children are not the ones that have to flee the home for a change, and we all know that there are insufficient support, refuges and accommodation available to meet their needs, don’t we? So it is refreshing that the government is taking domestic violence and abuse as something far more serious than just a couple having an argument in their own home.

The proposals include victims being offered support and advice by case workers on the  options open to them should they leave the relationship.

Help:

No one should have to endure the torture of emotional, psychological, physical or financial abuse because the perpetrator is feeling insecure in themselves. As discussed in my BBC 3 Counties Radio interview on the Jonathan Vernon-Smith show, whilst I agree that these Go Order proposals are heading in the right direction in assisting the prevention or reduction of homicide and domestic abuse in the home, certain issues still need to be addressed, thus:

  • If the perpetrator (usually men) is allowed back in to the home, or not as the case may be, what real and additional support will be available for the family as a whole, the couple and the children to deal with the underlying issues that are triggering the abuse?
  • Removal of the perpetrator from the home can have its own emotional and psychological damage on the children. How will this be tackled by the government?
  • If the perpetrator’s  self esteem, confidence and self worth had hit rock bottom as a result of losing their job, for instance, which potentially became the trigger for abusing their partner (and which by no means  is an excuse for inflicting any sort of abuse on anyone!), will s/he be supported in becoming a meaningful member of society again?
  • What additional assistance does the government proposes for agencies such as counselling services, children’s centres, schools and others in being able to manage the extra needs of those families affected by the Go Order?
  • What proposals are in place to support women’s financial situations once the perpetrator is removed from the home? One of the fears of women escaping an abusive situation is how they will cope financially by themselves with the children.
  • How will the police and government manage cases of people being falsely accused of committing such crimes? And the resulting impact on the family and the couple’s relationship?

The Impact:

In essence, I applaud the government’s decision to move forward with their proposals for domestic violence Go Orders as a measure to reduce homicide and domestic violence and abuse in the home. My reservations are, however, about the overall impact the actions will have on the family’s lives and the real support that the whole family will receive, including the perpetrator, in moving on with their lives. Could this situation also trigger manipulative parenting where either of the parents become manipulative parents? Removal of the perpetrator from one home, does not stop them committing similar offences in their subsequent homes. And similarly, what support will the women get to move on with their lives and not allow themselves to get caught up in similar circumstances? we also need to be mindful that the children are not thrown into situations of binge drinking like the recently highlighted case of Laura Hall.

Many government assisted interventions tend to be of a practical nature. We must not overlook the seriousness and importance of dealing with the underlying emotional and psychological issues that have resulted in people being in these and other situations. Until these underlying issues are addressed, tax payers will forever be forking out millions of pounds on quick fix practical solutions.

If the pilot is successful, the government proposes to roll the Go Order out across England and Wales.

What are your thoughts about these Go Orders?

How does it affect you in your role personally and professionally?

Do you welcome these Go Orders, or will they be a hindrance or headache within your profession?

Let me know what you think.

Until next time!

With Inspirational Blessings

Jennifer McLeod

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